Posts Tagged ‘Feelings’

The inability to comprehend what is being said, rather than simply opening our ears, is becoming a prominent problem in our society. According to eHarmony, an online dating service, the number two cause of breakups and divorce in the United States is lack of communication. Intimate relationships with our fellow human beings are destroyed because we do not know how to listen to one another! In addition, effective communication skills are valued in employees. The number one reason people are fired is not their inability to learn, but their inability to communicate.

Our ability to selectively hear not only keep us consciously unaware, but also hurts our relationships to the point of decay. Listening can help us in our relationships, our Read the rest of this entry »

Zappos is an online retailer that does over $1 billion in gross merchandise sales annually…they’re also on Fortune magazine’s “Best Companies to Work For” list. In November 2009, Zappos was acquired by Amazon in a deal valued at over $1.2 billion on the day of closing. Seems like Zappos CEO Tony Hsieh (pronounced Shay) should be pretty happy and know the secret to finding happiness, right?

Let’s turn back the clock for a moment… In 1999, at the age of 24, Tony sold LinkExchange, the company he co-founded, to Microsoft for $265 million. He then joined Zappos as an adviser and investor taking it from virtually no sales to the success it is today. In his book, Delivering Happiness, Tony shares the different lessons he has learned in business and life. He shows how a very different kind of corporate culture is a powerful model for achieving success — and how by concentrating on the happiness of those around you, you can dramatically increase your own. Ah ha…help yourself by helping others!

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I’m always wondering and observing…I ask a lot of questions. For instance, why are some people unhappy even though they are labeled “successful”? From the outside looking in, they appear to have it all – significant income, material possessions, fame – but they’re not happy. Then there are also those that seem to have that certain “something”. Everything they touch turns out perfectly – their relationships, children, health, work, homes, etc.? Why does “everything” work for some, and for others, “nothing” works?

Or, have you ever wondered why two people can have basically the same opportunities, but one is miserable while the other is happy? The pursuit of happiness is the focus of living.

Would you not agree that happiness is the true definition of success (see Success…What’s Your Definition)? I believe truly successful people Read the rest of this entry »

“You have learned to bury your guilt with anger. I will teach you to confront it, and to face the truth. You know how to fight six men. We can teach you how to engage six hundred.”
– Henri Ducard (Batman Begins)

Guilt can be defined as “a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined”.

Guilt is a useless emotion…it’s an emotion about something that’s already happened. It’s related to a negative event that took place in the past. It hangs over our heads. It reduces our self-worth and keeps us in misery. Guilt keeps us chained in the past, unable to move forward. And the worst part is, we do it to ourselves. Being in control of our own emotions, we place ourselves in situations that make us feel guilty or around people who put us down by reminding us of something we can never change. Run from Read the rest of this entry »